The Problem with Blame

The problem with blame is that it cuts into the heart. When I blame someone, I can feel it like a knife, cutting me as much as it cuts them. Blame sets the scene for conflict, and there’s already so much conflict.

But when thoughts of blame arise, I also notice that it’s also possible to let them go. And when I remember to do that, it’s possible to see underneath, and to realize that these thoughts only arise because of how much I care.

I blame my partner or a friend or one of the kids, and underneath it’s just care – caring about them, about how they’re doing, sometimes about myself. I blame the current administration, and underneath is how much I care about the rule of law, and my country.

From a mindfulness perspective, letting go of blame creates more room for love. That feels true for me. What about for you?

I hope you’re staying safe. I hope you’re making room for love.